Internalized Misogyny

Dear Women

Dear Women Everywhere,

I’m not your enemy. I’m not one of the guys. I’m skinny but that doesn’t mean that I believe my worth is more or less than anyone else’s. We are more than our bodies. I’m not going to bash you in the hopes that doing so will make men like me. I don’t think men are children who need women to raise them and neither should you. I’m not going to call you a skank or a slut because of that awesome skirt you’re wearing or because your cleavage kicks ass. If you want to do pageants, that’s fine. If you want to be a stripper, that’s fine too. If you want to be a doctor or a scientist, that’s cool. My feminism will be intersectional and not limited to white, hetero, Christian, able-bodied and minded women. I will not call you catty.

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If you say you were raped, I’m going to hold your hand and help you through it. If you’re taking a stand against social injustice, I will stand with you. If you think you’re one of the guys because women are bitches, I’ll still think you’re awesome. If you say you’re not like other girls, I will know that you believe there’s something inherently wrong with femininity and I will work harder to end misogyny. If you believe you have a specific gender role to perform because of your vagina, I will quietly show you all the things you can do when you don’t limit your awesomeness to societal constructs but I won’t knock if you’re a housewife either.

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I will talk with you anytime, I will listen, I will shop with you, I will take dressing room selfies with you. I will not eat ice cream with you because I’m allergic to that shit, but I will hang with you while you do. I will be your friend because I’m not your enemy and you are not mine. I will be uplifting, I will be supportive. I will cultivate as many female friendships as I can, understanding that one of the best things in this world is the intimacy that comes from friendships with strong women.

Sincerely,

Women Everywhere

 

Caution! Nefarious Magic Muffins and Black Magic Boobies Herein

Believe it or not, there was a time, long ago in the United States when women were treated as second-class citizens. Actually, they weren’t even treated like humans. Instead, they were the property of their fathers, husbands, or closest male relatives. They were considered inferior to men. Fortunately, that time has ended.

Naw, I’m kidding. The mentality that views women as inferior incubators with nefarious magic muffins and black magic boobies hellbent on the destruction of menfolk is alive and well.

Conjury coochies aside, we women should take a second to celebrate that moment in history when women joined hands and shot rainbows from their vaginas . . . oh no that was carebears and magic tummies. Ahem. We should celebrate that moment in history when women stood together to demand equality.

Photographer unknown. - Library of Congress, Prints & Photographs Division, LC-DIG-ggbain-12483

Women suffragists demonstrating for the right to vote 1913. Photographer unknown. – Library of Congress, Prints & Photographs Division, LC-DIG-ggbain-12483. Web. 22 Aug. 2015

In honor of the day women won the right to vote, August 26, 1920, and also to commemorate the same day in 1970 when there was a nationwide women’s rights brouhaha, the US designated August 26th of each year to be Women’s Equality Day.  All the men presidents (there are some provisos and limitations with full suffrage for some citizens) have issued a proclamation every year since then:

“WHEREAS, the women of the United States have been treated as second-class citizens and have not been entitled the full rights and privileges, public or private, legal or institutional, which are available to male citizens of the United States; and 
WHEREAS, the women of the United States have united to assure that these rights and privileges are available to all citizens equally regardless of sex;
WHEREAS, the women of the United States have designated August 26, the anniversary date of the passage of the Nineteenth Amendment, as symbol of the continued fight for equal rights: and 
WHEREAS, the women of United States are to be commended and supported in their organizations and activities,
NOW, THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED, the Senate and House of Representatives of the United States of America in Congress assembled, that August 26 of each year is designated as “Women’s Equality Day,” and the President is authorized and requested to issue a proclamation annually in commemoration of that day in 1920, on which the women of America were first given the right to vote, and that day in 1970, on which a nationwide demonstration for women’s rights took place.”
Thank you, Wiki, you can go now.
So we should all be grateful to our foremothers and suffragettes -those British ass kicking activists- for all they endured in their

Mathew Brady Studio Albumen silver print c. 1864 National Portrait Gallery Accession no. NPG.2002.90. Web. 22 Aug. 2015.

Sojourner Truth. Mathew Brady Studio Albumen silver print c. 1864 National Portrait Gallery Accession no. NPG.2002.90. Web. 22 Aug. 2015.

fight to ensure our freedoms (or some of them). Theirs was a hard-won victory. Many women were arrested and force-fed during hunger strikes with varying illnesses resulting from this maltreatment. However, no victory for suffrage was harder won than that fought by African Americans and began by such amazing women as Harriet Tubman, Ida B. Wells, Sojourner Truth, and Rosa Parks. African American women and men faced many issues and were oftentimes prohibited from exercising their right to vote. Unfortunately, many people remain targets of various voter prohibiting schemes and gerrymandering.

We still have a long way to go before we actually receive the full rights and privileges available to men. So if you vote, thank a feminist and if you’re one of those women who hate feminism, do get that internalized misogyny looked at. 😉
And props to Finland for being the first country to grant all its citizens full suffrage. =)
Sources: Wikipedia- Women’s Equality DayAfrican American Woman Suffrage Movement, and List of Suffragists and Suffragettes. Also, Women’s Leadership in American History: Black Suffrage and the Struggle for Civil Rights